Dating on and off again advice on dating a single father
He doesn’t call unless I call him first and then he starts the conversion about us hanging out and making plans. Overall does it seem that the guy is interested in me?
I haven’t talked about a relationship with him for a couple years now but I’m sick and tired of this off and on thing. And if he says that he doesn’t know how he feels or ‘lets see where this goes,’ does that mean he isn’t interested? Do you think it’s wrong to tell him that either something happens with us or that’s it and we need to go our separate ways?
Ultimately, you both have to claim responsibility for exactly what you’re doing and decide if it’s what you both really want.
Let me step back and give you a perspective on where it appears you’re coming from on this.
In a case like this, talking is not going scare him off – all it’s going to do is bring to light what both of you are already feeling.
Now, this is a much different scenario than a woman who’s been seeing a guy for six weeks and then wants to have a talk about whether they have a future together (as in, total commitment).
Meanwhile, both people are not happy, but they don’t want to rock the boat.
Something along the lines of: This is how things started, this is how things have gone so far, this is what I am thinking now, what are your thoughts on the whole thing? It may be that you commit to a relationship or it may be that you make a clean break from each other. Just check in with yourself about what you really want.
Start by getting clear within yourself about what you want (as best you can) and if you need a change, then talk it out. However, if both of you are taking cues from one another and neither one of you is making any firm commitment then things will continue to stay the way they have been into the future.
I can make a few suggestions about how you can talk to him about this without it turning to an ugly situation: 1) Stay calm and speak in a matter-of-fact manner.
2) Be a really great listener and take in what he’s saying.
I realize you are asking me the question of whether or not I think something is there and if it could work.